I was asked by my church to say a few words about fatherhood… probably due to the fact I have helped raise six kids… a rarity these days.
In preparation, I reflected on the relationship I had with my own dad… focusing in on some of those teaching moments which were designed to steer me in the right direction as I was veering off course… which, in my case, was more times than not.
My early childhood years were tough to say the least. Seems I spent most of my time finding various ways of getting into trouble. Quite frankly, I was one of those hardheaded, know-it-all kids who gave his parents all kinds of fits.
My dad died when I was 12 years old; he had little time to impart any wisdom he may have had. To make things worse… in those early years, I wasn’t doing much listening anyway.
I’m not sure he realized his profundity at the time… but there was this one six word refrain he always interjected in all his teaching moments. For some reason, that refrain continued to reverberate in the recesses of my mind long after his passing. It was as if he knew it would play out that way.
It was like an autostereogram teaching, if you will. At first I saw nothing in its meaning… it was a complete blur. But as time passed, that six word refrain of his continued to resonate. Then one day it happened… it came into focus.
I now attribute the light at the end of my tunnel to that resonating refrain. Yes, it took a while… almost six years of bad decisions to be exact… but I finally saw that light.
Son, he would say… you’re running with the wrong crowd. Now this obvious observation may not sound at all profound to you… and at the time, quite frankly, it didn’t to me either. But now I realize it was the best gift my dad could have ever left me.
His words… You’re running with the wrong crowd finally transformed in my mind’s eye to its true positive meaning… Surround Yourself with the Best!
Boom… fully implementing this one teaching awakens “The Law of Attraction”… the secret of attracting everything you decide you want and need from life.
At the time, I was running with an extremely rowdy crowd, all of whom were older than me. And I was deciding and attracting plenty. The problem was… I was on the wrong side of the fence. This “Law of Attraction” thing does not discriminate. It has no way to discern good from bad… that’s your job. Whatever it is you’re attracted to will find its way into your life.
Now I realize those of you who were a blessing to their parents, and who chose their friends wisely, take this teaching for granted… a no brainer, if you will.
The irony is… by you not experiencing the devastating effects surrounding yourself with negativism brings, you may not fully comprehend the personal empowerment which accompanies the conscious decision of surrounding yourself with the best.
You see… Dad understood what my problem was… and because he and I were cut from the same cloth, he knew that punishment alone wouldn’t be enough to change the ways of his hardheaded son. So in conjunction with my “adjustments” you might say, came the teaching moments laced with his six word refrain. You’re running with wrong crowd!
This simple teaching goes far beyond a father’s desperate attempt to turn his son’s life around. Yes, it goes much deeper.
You may disagree, but I honestly believe we attract to ourselves whatever we surround ourselves with. Think about what you are right now.
You are a culmination of the thoughts, dreams, prayers, teachings, beliefs, and people you have surrounded yourself with up to this point. Some, for one reason or another, you didn’t choose… but most were indeed of your own choosing.
Think about the habits you have… the person you’re with… those you have allowed in your life… the career you have… your health… your hobbies… the things you enjoy… your talents. There you are. This is the end product, based upon what you have chosen to surround yourself with.
Now comes the obvious question. What are your choices for the next 10 to 20 years? Make no mistake… you choose. We all choose… and those choices will paint your picture.
Hey… if you’re completely happy… by all means, go with the flow. But if there’s something you’ve been putting off, or something you want, but for some reason, mistakenly believe you’re not good enough to have… you might want to start singing my old man’s refrain.
Surround yourself with the best!
The results could be truly
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