Listen gentlemen, there are three simple things you can do for your wife, and if it truly comes from the heart, it will catapult you from merely being a good husband to the distant honor of being the most wonderful man alive…at least in her eyes.

First, you have to understand her reasoning process is 180 degrees out of phase from yours. Until you wrap you mind around this truth, you’ll be stumbling over your own good intentions every time you try to relate.

1. When your woman has a problem, and brings it to your attention, you might mistakenly believe she wants you to find a solution. If you believe this, you are dead wrong. What you need to do in this situation is give her your undivided attention because she doesn’t want you to fix her problem. She needs you to listen to her, and as she gives you every detail, interject as little as possible. Before you know it, you will have succeeded in what you wanted to do in the first place…which was fix her problem. You see, talking it through to someone who will listen was the only therapy she needed. You master this technique and you will not only fix her problem, but you may get credit as well.
2. I helped raise five girls in addition to having been married for over 35 years, so don’t doubt me on this one. I admit this still catches me off guard. Don’t assume just because a woman is crying she knows why, or for that matter, which emotion is in play. She could be happy; she could be sad; she could be frightened; she could be feeling overwhelmed; she could be feeling empathy for someone else with any one of the above feelings…and not only that, it can seem to come out of nowhere. WARNING! Do not in any way, shape or form try to fix this problem for your head may explode. Instead, take a deep breath, get you thoughts together, and pray you have the presence of mind to default to the solution found in situation #1.
3. Listen to me…count your losses on this one and suck it up…put down the frickin’ toilet seat.

All kidding aside, us guys have a few attributes our women think are unnatural as well, but the sooner we step up and accept each other’s differences, the better the loving of each other is going to be.

Bill Peak

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